Number 9 is my personal favorite
Starting a conversation on a dating app is easy. Getting a reply? That’s the real challenge.
People can usually tell when you’re sending the same copy-and-paste message to everyone. Openers like “Hey beautiful, how are you?”, “Does your mom need a son-in-law?”, or simply “Hi!” make it obvious you haven’t even looked at their profile.
Want to get more replies? Here are 10 opening messages that work in almost any situation.
1. Ask for a recommendation
“I saw on your profile that you’re into movies (travel, hiking, books). Could you recommend a great film (destination, trail, book)?”
This shows you’ve actually read their profile. Plus, people genuinely enjoy sharing recommendations.
2. Mention one of their photos
“I noticed you’re standing in front of the Louvre in one of your photos. Which painting impressed you the most?”
This proves you looked through their pictures instead of sending a random message. Ask about a place, activity, or moment from one of their photos, and you’ll get a much more interesting conversation.
3. Let them dream
“If you could fly anywhere in the world today, where would you go?”
Questions like this spark positive emotions and invite people to talk about places they love or dream of visiting.
4. Ask about a hobby
“Your profile says you’re into tennis. Where would you recommend a complete beginner start?”
People enjoy talking about their passions, and asking for advice is an easy way to keep the conversation flowing.
5. Add a little humor
“I have a theory that the first message determines the entire conversation. Want to test it?”
A lighthearted opener can make someone smile. It works especially well if their profile already suggests they have a playful personality.
6. Ask a meaningful question
“What’s something that made you smile recently?”
It’s a simple question, but the answer often reveals what genuinely brings someone happiness.
7. Make it a game
“Describe yourself using only three emojis, and I’ll try to guess what you’re like.”
or
“Beach or mountains?”
Fun questions make it easy for people to talk about themselves without feeling like they’re being interviewed.
8. Ask about their perfect weekend
“What does your perfect weekend look like?”
You’ll learn much more than what’s written in their bio, and shared lifestyle preferences often matter more than shared hobbies.
9. My favorite ❤️
“What would have to happen on a first date to make you want a second one?”
Their answer reveals a lot about their expectations and makes planning a future date much easier.
10. If their profile is almost empty
“There’s not much information on your profile. Let’s start with one surprising fact about you.”
A great opener when someone hasn’t written much but their photos caught your attention.
Now you have 10 conversation starters that can help you break the ice with almost anyone on a dating app. Which opening message has worked best for you? Share it in the comments! ❤️
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